These might sound repetitive and these might sound just questions to you but for me these questions itself have the answers because when you question yourself the answers pop out automatically.
If you are really as proud to have a daughter as you show then how come in same breath you say; "My daughter is like a Son to me". Aren't you insulting her in the same breath? Why can she not be just a good daughter? Why do you feel the need to put her in a mold?
When a couple is expecting a baby the most asked question is; what do you want? A boy or a girl? And the answer that mostly comes out is; "we want a healthy baby gender doesn't matter to us". Though I am not judging anyone but I know there is a pressure on the couples to say; Ohhh! We want a girl. We have always wanted a girl. I say pressure because lest you say; "I want a Boy!" you will be judged. You will be prosecuted for wanting a boy not a girl.
Why is it that you are gushed upon for wanting a girl but hated for wanting a boy or rather for being honest about it? Do you really feel that people are genuine when the say "we want a healthy baby; gender is immaterial." Or are they just being diplomatic in front of people who are ready to pounce on you if you do not say what they expect you to say?
Why is it that we always say "I do not have to worry about anything; my daughter is like a son to me" why do we never hear "my son is like my daughter?"
Why do we always assume that only daughters can take care of their parents and not the Son's? Have we not seen Son's taking care of their parents ever?
Why is it absolutely necessary for us to compare the two of them? Why do we have the need to pit them against each other? Why is that we can not accept the fact that our offspring can be good or bad irrespective of their gender?
If as a parent you really have nurtured your kid and brought them without differentiating then what is the need to remind the world that you have brought up your Son & your daughter equally. What is the need to remind the girl that she was different but wasn't treated differently.
Why do we want to change the world and its thinking but never think beyond the obvious. Why can we not think that when we compare we are being unjust to all. Why can we not understand that pull someone up it isn't necessary to pull someone down. Why can we not understand that what we need to give is a beautiful environment for our kids to grow. That they need to be nurtured & loved so that they know no bias and do no bias.
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